A kind that bothers me…

We are living in the 21st century or even passed that celebration a decade ago. We have evolved in every way possible but still that monkey business that started off millenniums ago still lingers doesn’t it?

Love, what a beautiful feeling. What a magical experience it is. When its at the high its at all time high, the happiness is immeasurable. But yes when the wheel rolls to the bottom it does hit us with a bang and the tears and the pain is indeed all part of the package. Yet with knowing all this we still want it, we still fall into it mostly unknowingly in the most unexpected places and yes evolve in this process to make it meaningful to the generations to come.

Yes all said is true. But when do we fall in love with someone? When we know that person very well, there’s is this feeling inside us that says yes its right! I do not believe in love at first sight people its all “lust” at first sight! There is that “IT” thing that some people call “CHEMISTRY” that happens between the two, that makes it work, beyond religious, cultural, language barriers, well these days I have to say beyond the differences of sex. But you see you don’t fall in love with the “Perfect” person! Love is loving that person through all the flaws and loving the imperfect and willing to change for oneself for the betterment of the other. That’s love. That’s true love. When we choose that “Special someone” we look through all of it and believe deep deep in your mind that for better or for worse, in sickness or in health is you and me that will take this journey truthfully and “hopefully” to the end.

After all this there is this “Unique” kinda people that I really want to talk about. They want all of the above and even more! But what ever differences that the process of falling in love didn’t really care about, doesn’t really matter suddenly bites them and Bang! they fail to bite back! Suddenly religion, language, culture, parents everything comes in between and oh boy the love doesn’t matter anymore! They spent all that energy and sacrifices for the one they love but when such issues knock on their doors , these people don’t have the guts to just push back the door harder or just lock it away for ever! Isn’t this just lame? Where is the guts people? Wont you fight for the loved one anymore? You ignored all the differences when the fun was just a bit too much fun, but when that pain plays a peekaboo you guys just run away how dare? Did you just truly love?

But when you bring up this argument there comes a defense that even more gutless. My children will be confused of what religion to follow, my children would be lost in two worlds, I would be looked down upon, my parents wouldn’t like it, after they doing so much for me I can’t think of such pain for them, the differences will bite you one day so its better if we agree upon now and the list goes on and on and sheesh im disappointed. Is it just me or doesn’t these people live in a new world? A world where a Black man can be president, a gay couple who can have kids, a world where we begin to see that there’s nothing called religion its all the same thing with different names. When the change is all around us why are we still so backward enough to step forward? Why can’t we stand up for ourselves and shout to the world this is my love, this is my future, this is what I want, do you have a problem? I simply don’t care!

Say it people, stand up for your self, for your love people. Its a new world not the old kind that kills! Make the change, every thing else will change just for you!

These days I happen to see a lot of couples who have been dating for ages like years and years and suddenly they are having countdowns for their own breakups and the reason? Religious, cultural differences. I mean if you know that’s a problem why waste you freaking time loving this person knowing deep deep inside its not gonna workout at the end? Be friends from the beginning will you? Why make that commitment?  Who is stupid enough to know that they are gonna be in shit and end up just continuously doing it for their own selfishness? Why people? Why fall in love or for a matter of fact continue on for such a long time and end in misery?

For all of you who belong to this kind, I pity you I honestly do but at the same time I am bursting in anger for your stupidnes. At the end its just misery that you knew at the beginning, so stop crying! I pity you, I do!